Relationship blossom when you really want it…..

Date: 19 may 2019

Nowadays I see people make relation…just to have one, they are actually not really prepared for one, to handle it’s ups and downs, low and high…..

I saw this yesterday when I was talking to my best girl. She was upset. I knew what could be the matter….

Let me explain from beginning…..it’s like my best girl friend, who is decent and perfect Indian girl. She never did a thing that could hurt her parents or family. Soon she had started a new job where in we met and became good friends, there started another stream of thoughts arriving in relatives mind…her marriage. Everybody new that she will go for arranged marriage, so the supposed groom was searched within relatives. This is the way Indian big celebration of marriage proceed.

There was situation where the respective boy and his family participated and said yes to this relationship….and no sooner she also said yes for this boy. Now it was decided there will be a great festival in this family. This is not important…what I want to focus is next……..

The boy was choosen on the terms that he is within long distance relationship so relatives knew about him… everyone said he is good and sensible boy. Best thing he was well established in multi national company. I too liked his profile after hearing about him from my source that is my girl friend. I was happy for her. After second meeting with him she also started talking good things about him….they started talking late nights after phone number exchange!!! This is obvious isn’t it!!

Now Let me talk about my friend, she is simple girl, when the boy asked what she see in her patner??? She just replied in one line… Trust and support. She just wanted unconditional trust and support of family and boy in present and future life….life time!!! This is actually what is needed for a relationship to blossom and remain everlasting…. This boy( to be groom) had promised that he would be there for her. Both the sides were positive for marriage……

For every story there is some mess Because it would be unfair if everything is perfect. There were complication and misunderstanding because still have orthodox things prevailing in our Indian society. They both stop talking to each other just to please others. At the end of two weeks struggle and problem the boy’s family gave up for this relationship which was going to happen…

Socking thing was that when my friend asked for his support to be with her for this relationship…..he directly said we are not still in married then where am I boun to be support of yours……I was shocked….when I heard this conversation from my friend, my mind said just one thing….this boy is not correct person for her….do we actually need a relationship name tag to care for people or to love people?? Does a mother need a written certificate to lover her child…??? Its a genuine feeling…if he was correct person for her and talking about the definition of relationship then with what relation did he talked with her late night…??? with which relation he build emotions in those conversations…..????its not easy for girl to move on….now when things seems to be over he is behaving like he is most decent person….he is behaving professional in personal life!!!

In professional life it is not mandatory to work for others but in personal life you do it because you care for her…..there is no written rule to wish your wife or do something special on your anniversary but you still do it because you love your wife. The only thing that matters is her smile.

If he was serious for her…and had build emotions for her then he must have talked to her and console his parents….that will be a support!!!

Relationship wall stand when brick of trust and support is placed…..it’s not one dat dream…it is years of work….

I feel helpless for her as she is great girl. I don’t want her to cry. Today people are more hurt and have pain internally than externally. I guess whatever happened has something good for her holding in bag of future…..I wish she gets all her happiness one day..

Relationship blossom when you crave for them, work for them…..

-A.K

Friendship And Technology..

Date:14 may 2019

Technology has brought people close enough but somewhere somehow it has disconnected the way that connected heart….

Yes it’s happening!!!! I am the live example what I am feeling right now.

I am less spoken person in this big world. I have all soughts of account…fb, Instagram, what’s app, etc. When I was new to this media I thought this web of internet will gift me new friends. But that didn’t happened. I was the same…left with few countable friend in this real world.

Now as I moved to new place slowly I realised that those of my past friends are now fb friend with whom you talk very rarely…. you are there in their friend list to just like their photos. Recently I am planning to visit my childhood place….wished and planned to visit all my friends…with all enthusiasm and happiness I made up my mind. Our Culture says to inform when you go and meet people…..For the same I messaged in my group…and guess what??? Things happened exactly the opposite!!!!

Not even my school best friend responded….shocked me!!!!!!!!!!

What did I do?? Why did she not respond to my message??? Isn’t she interested to meet me?? Was I that bad??? What was the reason??????

Hell!!! Questions disturbing me and hitting back of my brain!!

Soon I realized it’s not me or her; it’s the technology that has parted our hearts….I still remember I and her , our school time when we used to walk together, study together and have fun….her mom used to be like my second mom….that was the time when there is was no technology to teach us friendship goal…..

Now the time has changed…. people have different way of living life…people respect those who are equal to them….now friendship is on social media status…. perhaps I am happy that God shown me the real relationship meaning.

I might not even have handful countable friends in real world , but those who are , they are gems. For whom I am always there. And I know they are just one phone call apart.

Real friendship is one with no definition. It’s just there , it’s a true feeling of heart.

Hidden fight of life….

Date: 7 may 2019

From 3 days my best friend and colleague was facing a problem that was disturbing her emotionally….I was sad too….what she has faced in last 3 days ,I was facing for last two years….. I thought I was one who was more of prey of situations of life…..

But soon as we had conversations after our office time she opened up about her personal life …..like life back 2 months when we had never met…. actually life of past 27 years that she had lived…..

I was shocked to hear that she had seen domestic violence in her own family…. depression of her father…now I had understood her whole story , now all my questions of past two months were answered….why she was so silent when she came….she had seen violence in life that she wanted to hide her pain from whole world….why did she always spoke good and precisied word about her family…. because she had bad memories ……and foolish of me that I thought I was the only one who was facing ups and downs in the family….

Now I know every one in this world is fighting…. fighting their own battle..in a way that they don’t lose their loved ones ……respect for you have grown today…..I am happy that I have a friend like you….I wish you get all the world’s happiness….

You deserve it my best friend…

I wish the life plan that you have may blossom and fill smile and happiness in every moment of life…..

You usually say that you are blessed to have me as your friend but today I am blessed that I have a such a strong girl in my life that has given me a strength that we should face problem…may be how big it is….have faith and guts in your stomach….You can do any thing!!!!!

-A.K